Kev kho txij nkawm thiab tsev neeg tsis cuam tshuam txog cov tsev neeg nyuaj "willy-nilly." Hloov chaw, cov kws tshaj lij uas muaj txiaj ntsig thiab mob siab rau no coj cov txuj ci thiab kev paub dhau los rau ntawm lub rooj hauv lawv txoj kev sim pab tsev neeg ua haujlwm dhau qee lub caij sim ntau ntawm lawv lub neej.
Yog tias koj mus txog lub ntsiab lus hauv koj lub neej sib yuav uas xav tau kev mob nkeeg thiab tej zaum yuav muaj kev cuam tshuam mus sij hawm ntev los ntawm tus kws pab tswv yim, nrhiav tus kws kho mob uas muaj daim ntawv pov thawj tsim nyog thiab kev paub dhau los.
Nws yuav ua tau heev nyuaj rau nrhiav kev sib yuav zoo thiab tsev neeg tus kws pab tswv yim, tab sis koj tuaj yeem ib txwm nug koj tsev neeg, phooj ywg, lossis koj tus kws kho mob rau qhov kev xaiv zoo tshaj plaws. Txawm li cas los xij, kev thov kom xa mus yuav tsis yog rau ib tus neeg uas tsis xis nyob hauv kev nthuav tawm lawv cov teeb meem ntawm tus kheej ua ntej ntawm lwm tus.
Hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo li no koj tuaj yeem ib txwm muaj sim koj hmoov thiab tshawb xyuas lub vev xaib rau a tus kws pab tswv yim sib yuav zoo.
Nrhiav cov vev xaib muaj koob npe nrog cov kws qhia ntawv cov npe, xws li Asmeskas koom nrog kev sib yuav thiab kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg (AAMFT) lossis National Registry of Marriage-Friendly Therapists tau qhia meej txog kev xaiv.
Kev lees paub ntawm tsev neeg zoo thiab kev kho khub niam txiv yog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig zoo ntawm kev kho tus kws kho mob zoo li cas. Kev qhia tsis zoo thiab tsis muaj kev paub txog kev sib yuav pab tswv yim tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev phom sij ntau dua li qhov zoo.
Yog li, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nrhiav kev sib yuav thiab kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg nrog kev qhia tsim nyog thiab kev paub los pab koj hla koj cov teeb meem kev sib yuav.
Nov yog qee yam los txiav txim siab yuav ua li cas thiaj nrhiav tau tus kws tshaj lij kev sib yuav zoo? lossis yuav nrhiav tus kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg li cas?
Tus kws kho mob daim ntawv pov thawj
Txhawm rau xyaum kho tsev neeg thiab kev sib yuav, kws kho mob yuav tsum tau txais daim ntawv tso cai, uas tuaj yeem sib txawv ntawm ib lub xeev mus rau lwm qhov. Tus kws kho mob xyaum kho kev sib yuav yuav yog:
- muaj ntawv tso cai sib yuav thiab kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg (LMFT),
- tus kws pab tswv yim kho mob hlwb muaj ntawv tso cai (LMHC),
- ib tus neeg ua haujlwm kho mob saib xyuas mob nkeeg muaj ntawv tso cai (LCSW), lossis
- tus kws kho mob hlwb
Cov kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg tuaj ntawm ntau qhov keeb kwm yav dhau los tab sis feem ntau tsim nyog thiab muaj ntawv tso cai tsev neeg thiab kev kho mob sib yuav los muab kev txhawb nqa tsim nyog rau tsev neeg.
Nyob tebchaws Meskas, Kev Sib Yuav thiab Tsev Neeg Kho Mob feem ntau muaj qib master. Feem ntau, Masters hauv Kev Kos Duab lossis Masters hauv Kev Tshawb Fawb hauv kev kho mob, kev xav, lossis kev sib yuav thiab kev kho tsev neeg yog qhov tsim nyog tau txais kev lees paub rau kev sib yuav thiab tsev neeg kho mob.
Tom qab kawm tiav, yav tom ntej MFTs ua haujlwm ua haujlwm nyob rau hauv kev saib xyuas ntawm tus kws tshaj lij muaj ntawv tso cai thiab yuav raug tshuaj xyuas ntawm cov phooj ywg.
Feem ntau, txawm tias qhov kev lees paub zoo tshaj plaws MFTs tsis tuaj yeem tso tus shingle ntawm phab ntsa thiab pib kho tus kheej kom txog thaum lawv tau dhau qhov nyuaj ntawm kev xyaum ua haujlwm thiab saib xyuas lwm tus.
Dab tsi los saib hauv tus kws kho mob
- Thaum qib siab yog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev ua tiav kev sib yuav thiab kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg, cov neeg siv feem ntau yuav tsum xav paub ntau ntxiv kom tau txais cov kev pabcuam ntawm ib tus neeg uas muaj kev paub ntau yam hauv thaj chaw.
Raws li qhov dav thiab qhov tob ntawm tsev neeg cov teeb meem tsis dhau peb lub tswv yim, tsev neeg yuav tsum ib txwm muaj nrhiav tus kws kho mob uas muaj kev paub txaus hauv ntau yam teeb meem xws li kev tsim txom, kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj, kev tsis ncaj ncees, kev coj tus cwj pwm thiab lwm yam. Nws ib txwm pab nrhiav tus kws kho mob uas muaj tsev neeg ntawm nws tus kheej.
- Vim li cas koj thiaj xav khaws cov kev pabcuam ntawm tus neeg uas tsis tuaj yeem nkag siab zoo nrog cov teeb meem uas koj tsev neeg ntsib? Yog tias tus kws kho mob tsis muaj kev paub dhau los hauv kev ລ້ຽງ tsev neeg lossis tswj kev sib raug zoo, Kuv ntshai tias nws cov txiaj ntsig muaj txiaj ntsig tsawg.
- Koj tus kws kho mob yuav tsum mob siab rau pab koj daws koj txoj kev sib yuav tsis yog xaus koj txoj kev sib yuav.
- Hnov qib kev hwm ntawm koj tus kws kho mob yog qhov tseem ceeb heev txhawm rau kom xis nyob nrog lawv. Koj lossis koj tus txij nkawm yuav tsum xis nyob txaus los tawm tswv yim thaum koj tham thiab koj tus kws kho mob yuav tsum hwm koj cov lus qhia.
- Koj tus kws kho mob yuav tsum tsis txhob muaj kev ncaj ncees rau koj lossis koj tus txij nkawm. Qhov laj thawj uas koj xaiv rau kev sib yuav thiab tsev neeg kho mob yog kom tau txais kev xav tsis ncaj ncees los ntawm tus kws tshaj lij.
Kev sib yuav thiab tsev neeg tus kws kho mob kuj tseem yuav raug xaiv vim lawv tus kheej kev nkag siab thiab qhov txiaj ntsig ntawm kev sib raug zoo. Yog tias koj nkag siab tus cwj pwm nruj los ntawm koj tus kws kho mob, tom qab ntawd nws lossis nws yuav tsis yog qhov kev xaiv raug rau koj.
Teeb lub hom phiaj thiab tsis plam koj qhov muag pom los ntawm lawv yog qhov tseem ceeb heev los nrhiav kev daws teeb meem los ntawm kev kho. Tsis tas li, sim tsom mus rau yav tom ntej thiab tsis yog yav dhau los, koj txoj kev txhim kho hauv kev kho mob yuav tsum tau taw qhia rau yav tom ntej thiab tsis yog qhov ua yuam kev yav dhau los.
Thaum ua haujlwm nrog kev tso cai sib yuav thiab kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg, koom tes ua haujlwm rau cov hom phiaj uas tau tsim tseg, thiab tso sijhawm thiab siv zog ua haujlwm, koj yuav pom cov txiaj ntsig thiab koj txoj kev sib yuav yuav pib vam meej.