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- Mus los ntawm ob mus rau peb lossis ntau dua
- Nov yog qhov pib xwb
- Nov yog thaj chaw uas tau muaj kev tshawb fawb ntau heev
- Yam muaj hnub nyoog thaum nws los txog rau kev cuam tshuam ntawm niam txiv kev sib cav
- Cov menyuam yaus coj tus yam ntxwv ntawm yam lawv pom hauv lawv ib puag ncig
- Yog li yuav ua li cas?
Txawm hais tias nyob rau hauv feem ntau idyllic ntawm kev sib raug zoo thiab kev sib yuav, muaj qee zaum tsis pom zoo.
Cov no tuaj yeem yog los ntawm ib lossis ob tus neeg koom tes siv kev kho mob ntsiag to mus rau qee zaum sniping, kom ua tiav cov suab nrov nrov nrov nrog ob tus neeg koom tes qw cov lus ua phem.
Mus los ntawm ob mus rau peb lossis ntau dua
Okay, yog li qhov no yog ib feem thiab pob khoom ntawm lub neej nrog tus khub thaum tsuas muaj koj ob leeg, tab sis thaum koj muaj menyuam, raws li niam txiv paub, tag nrho lub neej sib npaug hloov pauv.
Qhov tseem ceeb, tsis muaj kev ntseeg, tau hloov pauv, nrog rau ntau lab lwm yam ntawm koj kev sib raug zoo, tab sis kev sib cav tseem tshwm sim. Qhov no ua rau muaj lus nug uas yuav tsum tau daws: yuav muaj dab tsi tshwm sim rau koj cov menyuam thaum koj thiab koj tus khub sib cav?
Cia peb nkag mus rau hauv thiab pom dab tsi cov kws tshaj lij tau hais txog qhov no.
Nov yog qhov pib xwb
Raws li koj tsis ntseeg twb paub lawm, kev sib ntaus nyob ib puag ncig ntawm cov menyuam ua rau muaj ntau qhov tsis zoo.
Feem ntau pom tias cov niam txiv uas muaj ntau qhov kev tsis sib haum nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm lawv cov menyuam tuaj yeem hloov txoj hauv kev lawv cov menyuam txheej txheem cov ntaub ntawv, ua lwm yam, cov menyuam xav li cas.
Alice Schermerhorn, Tus Pab Xib Fwb hauv UVM Lub Tsev Haujlwm Saib Xyuas Kev Puas Siab Ntsws, pom tias "cov menyuam los ntawm cov tsev tsis sib haum xeeb, los ntawm kev qhia lawv lub hlwb kom ceev faj, ua cov cim ntawm kev xav ntawm tus kheej, tsis npau taws lossis zoo siab, txawv dua li menyuam yaus los ntawm cov tsev tsis sib haum xeeb. " Nco ntsoov tias lub sijhawm tom ntej koj raug ntxias kom yws txog qee yam.
Nov yog thaj chaw uas tau muaj kev tshawb fawb ntau heev
Txij li qhov no yog thaj chaw tseem ceeb, cov kws tshawb fawb thoob plaws ntiaj teb tau tshaj tawm ntau lab lo lus hais txog nws. Piv txwv li, cov kws tshawb fawb Mark Flinn thiab Barry England tau tshuaj xyuas cov piv txwv ntawm kev nyuaj siab hormone, cortisol, coj los ntawm txhua tus menyuam yaus hauv ib lub zos ntawm cov kob ntawm Dominica hauv Caribbean hauv kev kawm 20 xyoo.
Lawv pom tias cov menyuam uas nyob nrog niam txiv uas sib cav tas li muaj qib nruab nrab cortisol siab dua uas qhia tias muaj kev nyuaj siab ntau dua li menyuam yaus uas nyob hauv tsev neeg muaj kev thaj yeeb dua.
Thiab cov txiaj ntsig tau ua li cas cov qib qib cortisol tau tsim?
Cov menyuam yaus nrog qib siab dua ntawm cortisol nquag ua rau nkees thiab mob, lawv ua si tsawg dua, thiab pw tsawg dua li lawv cov phooj ywg uas loj hlob hauv tsev muaj kev thaj yeeb dua.
Xav txog qhov kev nthuav dav ntawm qhov no. Yog tus menyuam mob, nws lossis nws tsis mus kawm ntawv thiab tej zaum yuav pib txom nyem kev kawm. Yog tias menyuam yaus tsis koom nrog kev ua si ib leeg, lawv yuav tsis txhim kho cov txuj ci kev sib raug zoo uas tsim nyog kom ua tau zoo nyob hauv ntiaj teb.
Yam muaj hnub nyoog thaum nws los txog rau kev cuam tshuam ntawm niam txiv kev sib cav
Cov menyuam yaus li hnub nyoog rau hli muaj peev xwm paub txog kev sib cav nyob ib puag ncig lawv tus kheej.
Cov neeg laus feem ntau tuaj yeem nco lawv niam lawv txiv sib cav. Muaj pes tsawg tus menyuam tau txiav txim siab ib feem ntawm cov tshuaj tiv thaiv lossis cuam tshuam rau niam txiv kev sib cav. Ib tus menyuam yug tshiab yuav tsis tuaj yeem paub qhov kev nruj hauv kev sib yuav, tab sis tus menyuam muaj tsib xyoos yeej ua tau.
Cov menyuam yaus coj tus yam ntxwv ntawm yam lawv pom hauv lawv ib puag ncig
Hauv lwm lo lus, cov menyuam kawm los ntawm kev luam qhov lawv pom thiab hnov ib puag ncig lawv tus kheej. Ua niam txiv, koj yog lub ntiaj teb rau koj cov menyuam.
Yog tias koj koom nrog kev ntais ntawv sib tw, koj tus menyuam yuav pom cov no thiab yuav loj hlob xav tias qhov no yog tus qauv.
Rau koj cov menyuam lub hom phiaj, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj kom khaws lub ntim qis thaum koj tsis pom zoo nrog koj tus khub, yog li koj tsis muaj tus cwj pwm zoo li ntawd los ntawm koj cov xeeb leej xeeb ntxwv. Tsis yog koj tus menyuam yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig, yog li koj cov neeg nyob ze!
Nov yog cov npe ntawm qee qhov ua tau thiab muaj ntau
- Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsis muaj kev nyab xeeb thiab thim rov qab
- Teeb meem ntawm tus cwj pwm tuaj yeem tsim
- Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem tsim teeb meem kev noj qab haus huv, tiag lossis xav txog
- Cov menyuam yaus tsis tuaj yeem tsom mus rau hauv chav kawm uas tuaj yeem ua rau muaj teeb meem kev kawm thiab qib tsis zoo
- Kev xav ntawm kev ua txhaum yuav tshwm sim. Cov menyuam yaus feem ntau xav tias lawv tau ua rau niam txiv tsis sib haum xeeb
- Menyuam yuav nyuaj siab
- Kev sib tham nrog lwm tus menyuam yaus tuaj yeem ua teeb meem lossis sib ntaus sib tua
- Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem ua rau lub cev hnyav; lawv tuaj yeem tsoo, thawb, thawb lossis tsoo lwm tus menyuam
- Qee tus menyuam tuaj yeem hais lus phem; lawv tuaj yeem thuam, thuam, siv cov lus tsis tsim nyog, thiab hu lwm tus menyuam lub npe
- Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem tsim qauv pw tsis zoo thiab npau suav phem
- Kev noj zaub mov tsis zoo tuaj yeem tsim. Cov menyuam yaus yuav noj ntau dhau lossis yuav noj tsawg dhau.
- Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem dhau los ua cov neeg noj zaub mov thiab pib poob cov khoom noj muaj txiaj ntsig zoo
Yog li yuav ua li cas?
Coob leej niam txiv paub paub lossis kawm paub tias kev sib cav ntawm lawv cov menyuam tsis tas yuav yog qhov zoo.
Qee tus niam txiv tsuas yog sim zam txhua qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb, tab sis qhov ntawd dhau los ua nws tus kheej cov teeb meem. Lwm tus niam txiv tuaj yeem muab lossis ua rau lawv tus khub, txhawm rau xaus qhov kev sib cav, tab sis ntxiv, qhov no yuav tsis ua rau muaj txiaj ntsig zoo.
Mark Cummings, kws paub txog kev puas siab ntsws ntawm Tsev Kawm Ntawv Notre Dame, tau sau ntau ntxiv txog dab tsi tshwm sim rau menyuam yaus uas loj hlob hauv cov xwm txheej uas muaj kev sib cav ntau hauv kev txij nkawm, thiab hais tias los ntawm kev muaj menyuam ua tim khawv txog qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb, menyuam yuav xav ntau dua kev xav ruaj ntseg.
Nws hais ntxiv, "Thaum cov menyuam pom kev sib ntaus thiab pom cov niam txiv daws teeb meem, lawv yeej zoo siab dua li lawv tau pom ua ntej. Nws tso siab rau menyuam tias niam txiv tuaj yeem ua haujlwm dhau los. Peb paub qhov no los ntawm kev xav lawv qhia, lawv hais dab tsi, thiab lawv tus cwj pwm -lawv khiav tawm thiab ua si. Kev tsis sib haum xeeb yog cuam tshuam nrog cov txiaj ntsig zoo dua nyob rau lub sijhawm. "
Txoj kev nruab nrab yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los ua kom muaj kev noj qab haus huv ntawm tag nrho tsev neeg. Sib ntaus, sib cav, tsis pom zoo, tsis sib haum, hu lawv yam koj xav tau – yog ib feem ntawm qhov ua rau peb tib neeg. Kawm paub yuav tshwm sim li cas qhov txiaj ntsig zoo tshaj plaws yog tus yuam sij rau kev loj hlob thiab ua kom lub neej muaj kev noj qab haus huv tshaj plaws rau niam txiv thiab menyuam.